MOTHER-IN-LAW WAS NOT ALLOWED IN THE ROOM WHEN HER DAUGHTER-IN-LAW WAS GIVING BIRTH
Julia and her husband Steven were expecting their fist child. When the time arrived, Julia didn’t wanted her mother-in-law in the room when she was gibing birth, but she was having her own mother in the room.
As the mother-in-law didn’t accepted the situation, she started to a crusade against her daughter-in-law’s choice.
The mother-in-law wanted an advice as she wrote about the problem to a column.
The mother-in-law had started to her story as, “Dear Prudence. My son Steven and daughter-in-law Julia are expecting their first child and our first grandchild next month. I had what I thought was a good relationship with Julia, but I feel devastated.”
“My son, Steven, and daughter-in-law, Julia, are expecting their first child and our first grandchild next month. I had what I thought was a good relationship with Julia, but I find myself devastated. Julia has decided only Steven and her mother will be allowed in the delivery room when she gives birth. I was stunned and hurt by the unfairness of the decision and tried to plead with her and my son, but Julia says she “wouldn’t feel comfortable” with me there.”
“I reminded her that I was a nurse for 40 years, so there is nothing I haven’t seen. I’ve tried to reason with Steven, but he seems to be afraid of angering Julia and will not help. I called Julia’s parents and asked them to please reason with their daughter, but they brusquely and rather rudely got off the phone. I’ve felt nothing but heartache since learning I would be banned from the delivery room. Steven told me I could wait outside and I would be let in after Julia and the baby are cleaned up and “presentable.” Meanwhile, Julia’s mother will be able to witness our grandchild coming into the world. It is so unfair.”
“I’ve always been close to my son, but I no longer feel valued. I cannot bring myself to speak to Julia. I’m being treated like a second-class grandmother even though I’ve never been anything but supportive and helpful. How can I get them to see how unfair and cruel their decision is?”
As she was expecting that people would praise and support her, even the columnist didn’t supported the mother-in-law. The columnist had gave her advice as, “You can’t! You shouldn’t! You are entirely in the wrong! I say this in the hopes that, after the initial flush of indignation fades, you will be braced and supported by the realization that you have been acting badly and that you need to change. It’s difficult to admit when one’s been wrong, but there’s nothing quite so clarifying as figuring out how to do better.”
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