WHEN SHE CAME BACK TO HER HOME FROM HER FAMILY TRIP, SHE FOUND OUT THAT HER MOTHER-IN-LAW HAD TOOK THE ASHES OF HER LATE SON

Mubin November 9, 2023

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A couple cries while holding a mortuary urn | An older lady spreads ashes of a loved one in a forest | Source: Shutterstock

A woman had shared her heartbreaking story on Reddit, where her mother-in-law had took the ashes of her late son to make pendants, so that everyone in the family could carry her son near them, as they loved him much. But she stated that they only visited while his son was in the hospital few times, and they all have kids, but she lost her son.

She had started her story as, “My son Tom passed away 4 months ago, at the age of 6, he had a heart condition that robbed him of living his childhood like any other kid, He was such an angel and he loved food so much, I tried to feed him as much as I could because he was so thin and didn’t have enough energy to run around and play because of his condition.”

She then stated that the family of her husband had acted while Tom was under treatment in the hospital, but they had visited Tom few times. And after his passing, her MIL, and some of the family members had took the belongings of Tom. As she shared, “My husband’s family were directly involved in my son’s care, they were always there but they never stayed at the hospital so I could go home and get some sleep, they stopped their kids from being around him, they did not help at all, when my son passed away, they felt free to take his belongings, clothes/toys/blankets and my mother in law insisted to have a burial service but I chose to have him cremated and kept his ashes in an urn inside my bedroom.”

After his passing, her MIL had visited them occasionally, and later on she had stated that she wanted to make pendants from the ashes of her grandson. “My mother in law started visiting regularly (she didn’t do that when he was alive just visited the hospital) and she started talking about making ashes pendants for me, my husband and her family as a way to carry Tom’s memory with us and keep him close wherever we go, she told me that my brother in law loved Tom so much and wanted a pendant made for him as well, I was stunned and I didn’t know what to tell her,”

As she had stated that she wouldn’t accept that, her MIL insisted that Tom was important for her and her uncle. “I remember telling her that this was never gonna happen, and that all those family members have their kids with them and that I was the one who lost a son, she started arguing talking about how important Tom was to her and the family and that my husband would agree with this fair treatment instead of keeping an urn in my bedroom and refusing to let the family share their grieve, I told her there was no way I’d say yes, she seemed so upset and took it personally,”

As she left home for a while, when her own family had invited her to a family trip, when she came back, she saw that the urn of ashes was gone, and her MIL had made the pendants she wanted. “I got invited to a road trip by my family to help get me relieve so much stress, and when I returned after 6 days, I found that my son’s urn was gone, my husband showed me a necklace that he said had my son’s ashes in it and pulled out another one that belonged to him that was in the shape of cross, he told me that his mom made necklaces for me, him, her,brother in law with our son’s ashes, paid money to get it done and so we could all have Tom with us,”

She stated that she lost it and started to argue with her husband. “I was in a shock I had to sit down for a minute, turned out he allowed his mom to take the urn while I was gone, and his defense was that his family cared so much for Tom and they all deserved to keep a momerial necklace as a way to remember him,I yelled at him that this was my son not theirs, she had no right to take the urn and do what she wanted with it especially when I told her no,”

An older lady spreads ashes of a loved one in a forest | Source: Shutterstock

She had said that she also argued with her MIL too, and asked for advice. “I was so mad with him, I couldn’t even look at him, I took my things and went back to my family and refused to take the necklace that she “put thousands” on, I called her and berated her for her awful behavior and told her she was selfish and inconsiderate for taking my son from me like that, my husband is trying to apologize but I can’t accept he did this and betrayed me.”

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