THE FATHER WAS KICKED OUT OF HIS DAUGHTERS WEDDING, THE DAUGHTER ASKED ADVICE ON REDDIT
A woman had stated that she kicked out her father from her wedding, when her father had acted out terribly. She had shared her story on Reddit and asked for advice from other Redditors.
“My parents are divorced and don’t get along (they did try to hide it from me but I was never blind). I lived two separate lives growing up but after I got engaged, I had dreams of having this big pretty wedding and I wanted my mom and dad to be a part of it.” she had stated that her parents are separated and there is a feud going between them.
She stated that there was a problem during their wedding photoshoot as, “I wanted to do all the traditional things (mom gets ready with me and dad walks me down the aisle etc.) We were taking family pictures before the reception and I wanted a picture with my mom and dad and I. Just one. I took ones with dad and his wife and my mom and her husband. My stepmom refused and threw a tantrum and was like “You guys aren’t a family anymore,” “Your dad is married to me” “You can’t be in a picture with just your mom and dad” “Idc that it’s your wedding” “Its disrespectful to our marriage”.
“My stepdad didn’t care because he doesn’t have a temperament of a toddler and my mom was willing to do it. My dad however sided with his wife. I told him it was one picture that his daughter wanted to have a keepsake of to remember her wedding. He told me he loved me very much but that his wife wouldn’t be comfortable with it and so he couldn’t. He said he would love to take more pictures of all 5 of us (dad, mom, SM, and SD) and more of just me and him, but I declined.” her father had suggested that it would make sad her stepmother, and stated that five of them should take pictures.
“I told him that I no longer wanted to share the first dance with him at the reception and that I didn’t want to hear whatever speech he concocted because it would clearly all be BS. I told him he couldn’t even take a picture with me. He told me he understood even though he wishes he could do those things with me. I asked him to leave even though he really wanted to stay.” she had said that she kicked out her dad out of her wedding in result, and her father wanted to stay with her.
Then she said that her father had called her and cried since he felt terrible to not be in his daughter’s wedding, and wanted to talk. “He called me crying the next day, and wanted to talk. I told him good thing he has another daughter (dad and stepmom’s kid) and good thing he has the chance to be the father of the bride at one point. he told that I was not replaceable and if there was anything he could do to make it up to me. He was super remorseful and he doesn’t make emotion so I knew he wasn’t being manipulative. I was wondering if I was the a**hole for making him leave because I guess its not his fault his wife is someone so insecure.”
Later on, she wanted advice from other Redditors, and here are their answers and advices.
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“If there was ever a time for him to cast your step moms feelings aside for TEN SECONDS, it was then. He showed you who his priorities are. Good on you, OP. Hopefully this opens his eyes to the kid of woman his wife is.”
“our dad has his own mind and doesn’t have to let his wife think for him. He could have taken the picture and told his wife to sit down and cut the shit. He made his choices and now has to live with the consequences.”
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