HUSBAND HAD CRITICISED THE CHRISTMAS GIFT HIS WIFE HAD PRESENTED TO HIM, IN FRONT OF THE WHOLE FAMILY

A wife had shared her story on Reddit’s r/AITA subreddit. She had explained that she is a stay at home mother, and due to her health problems, she coudln’t work anymore, as she was used to. Then at the Christmas, her husband had gave her money, and she bought a gift for him, but he was unhappy with the gift, and criticised her in front of the whole family.
She had described their marriage and the financial situation as, “My (F29) husband (M33) is the breadwinner and I’m a sahm. We used to both work but due to medical problems I couldn’t keep working. As a result I don’t have what they call fun money or money to spend however I want. My husband gives me money only to spend on the house or the kids but that’s that. I might borrow money here and there or try to figure something out if I needed essential stuff like hygiene products.”
Then explained that her husband had gave her $600, as the Christmas gift, and she decided to buy an item from his wishlist, but chose the cheapest one, since she needed to buy some other stuff too.
“This Christmas my husband gave me $600 dollars as my Christmas gift. I freaked out thinking I now have to get him a decent gift to match his. So I went shopping and got him the most offordable thing on his wish-list which was a $180 dollar pair of sneakers with his favorite color.”
As her husband saw the sneakers, he wasn’t happy, and an argument started. “I didn’t show him the gift until we visited his parents house for Christmas and when it was time for gift opening he opened the gift, saw the sneakers and looked extremely extremely upset like he was about to blow up.”

The husband had stated that he gave money so his wife could get him the top of his wishlist, a gaming console. “I asked what’s up and he asked why “in the blue hell” I decided to “waste money” and get him sneakers aka: the cheapest gift on his wishlist. I said it’s all I could afford and he literally lashed out and said “bullshit! I gave you $600 dollars that’s about the right price for a new gaming console and it was right there at the top of my whishlist!”.”
The wife had tried to explain that she needed the money too, and that is why she had bought the sneakers. “He said it infront of his parents!! It was so so awkward I felt so horrible I wanted to disappear. But I apologized and said I was sorry but I had other stuff I needed to buy and money wasn’t enough.”
Then her husband had accused her as being a wasteful person. “He took it as in I was blaming him for not giving me enough money and picked an argument with me about how wasteful and financially irresponsoble I am otherwise I wouldn’t be struggling with money for long.”

Then the things got fierce, “I disagreed and said I don’t have a salary due to medical issues not being irresponsible. Also told him he could get the gaming console himself since he has money but he got all dramatic and ranted about how he wouldn’t because then he’ll be judged for getting anything for himself.”
The husband had continued, as he stated that his wife had ruined the Christmas for him. “His parents tried to get involved but he straightup told me how disappointed he was and said that I ruined his Christmas then went upstairs and avoided talking to me til we got back and the whole argument restarted. He kept repeating that he was disappointed and that I ruined Christmas for him saying “good job screwing up” even after I pointed out how rude it was of him to react like that infront of his parents.”
Here are some of the comments from Redditors.

“NTA. Your husband is abusing you. This is literally financial abuse. You deserve money to spend on yourself, doesn’t matter if you don’t make a salary; you still do work keeping house. Not only that, but yelling at you like that at all, but especially in front of people is also abusive. PLEASE look into getting disability or unemployment and get AWAY from him!!!”
“NTA OP. Please talk to someone (a friend, family member?) About your relationship with your SO to get a better perspective.”

“I literally omg’d out loud when I realized he expected her to spend her $600 “gift” on him. I feel so terrible for OP. First because of how awful she is being treated, second because she doesn’t realize how WRONG it is.”
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