HER SISTER-IN-LAW WANTED A SPECIAL MENU AT THE THANKSGIVING DINNER FOR THE FIFTH TIME, SO SHE HAD A TALK WITH HER

A woman shared on Reddit that her sister-in-law had demanded special menu for the last five Thanksgiving. So when things went wrong again, she had cancelled the Thanksgiving dinner she was hosting for the last 20 years.
“I 40F have hosted Thanksgiving for my family (husband, children, mother, siblings and their spouses) for the last 20 years. There was never an issue until my brother met his now wife Julie* five years ago.” the woman had shared.

She had cooked her a special meal each time, and still, there were problems, as she shared, “Julie is very big into fad diets (Atkins, keto, South Beach) and every year she sends me a list of foods that she cannot eat and a list of things that she can. Last year I cooked her the exact keto foods that she wanted and she was upset the entire meal because my brother didn’t want to eat it with her so they fought at the table.”
And this year, she had again received a special menu from her, and this time, she refused to cook something different for her. “Last week she sent me a text message that she is now on the fertility diet as they are starting IVF and sent me another list of foods that she cannot eat and a planned menu for me to cook for her. I texted her back and told her that this year I was making one meal and one meal only and she could either eat what was being served or bring her own food. She texted back and told me that I was being selfish and didn’t care about her.”

Then her brother had called her, and they had a fight. “My brother called me up the next day and asked if I was happy about ruining Thanksgiving and started to yell about how at their BBQ last summer they catered to my food allergies (I am deathly allergic to strawberries and have an epi-pen). I told my brother that this was not the same as a life threatening food allergy, that this was dietary choice, and it changes every year.”
Her brother also called his mother, and the mother had supported her daughter, as she stated that her DIL’s diet is changing every year, and she should bring her own foor if she wants something different.

Then she cancelled the dinner, and added that if anyone wants to come, they are most welcome. “I talked to my husband about this, and he said this was “ridiculous high school bullshit drama.” He told me he would be fine canceling the whole meal and it just being our family. I agreed with him and sent everyone a text message. I told them that Thanksgiving at my house is canceled. That I am serving (Thanksgiving menu). If they want to come over and eat with us, they are welcome to do so.”
Her sister was happy, because someone was finally confronted their SIL, about her ridiculous diets. “My sister is thrilled that I finally said something about it. She hosts Christmas dinner and is also tired of cooking extra meals. My mom however is upset that we are all fighting and thinks that I shouldn’t have canceled the meal. Now I am starting to feel guilty, but my husband and my son say that I need to stand my ground and not give in to Julie and my brother.”

She had asked for advices, and here they are.
“NTA. If you have made lifestyle choices, you’re responsible for them. The host doesn’t have to accommodate it. The comparison to deathly allergies is just stupid.”
“Agreed. NTA. And she didn’t really cancel Thanksgiving. She’s HAVING Thanksgiving and all are invited as long as they accept the menu or bring their own food. Which is a great move because it puts the onus back onto the individual family members.”

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