HER PREGNANT SISTER HAD WORKED ALL DAY LONG, AS HER HUSBAND HAD WATCHED HER, SO SHE HAD CONFRONTED WITH HER BROTHER-IN-LAW AT THE THANKSGIVING DINNER

A sister had shared on Reddit’s r/AITA subreddit that she had witnessed the terrible conditions her pregnant sister was living in, as her husband was making her work more than 40 hours a week, and do every house chores by herself, as she is pregnant, as she was staying at their house with her fiance for a while.
She had stated that after she had seen the bad behaviour of her brother-in-law, she confronted with him at the family Thanksgiving Dinner.
She had started her story, by saying that her husband was doing nothing supportive for his wife. “I (F 24) have a sister (F 32) who has a husband (M 38) who is the poster child of weaponized incompetence. They have 4 kids (F10, M8, M5, F3) and she’s pregnant. My sister works a full time job (40+ hours a week, cleans her entire house, cooks, takes care of all her children without him doing ANYTHING.”
Then, she had explained a week of her sister’s doings, and how incompetent her brother-in-law is. “It is seriously mind blowing that she wakes up at like 4 am, cooks breakfast, does chores, gets all of her kids ready for school, takes them all to school and daycare and all he does is stay home and work and when his kids get home (after my sister picks them up of course) he will play with them for a little and play video games until he falls asleep. she actually makes MORE than him!”
As she had stayed at their house with her fiance, they had helped her sister, and she stated that her sister was happy. “My fiancé (M 26) and i had to stay with them for 6 weeks while our home was being renovated and since we both wfh, we helped her and it is AMAZING how much happier she is when she has help. I helped with the kids and my fiancé even drove her to doctors appointments. Her husband literally only acknowledges he is a parent when his family is around, then he is a god fearing, hard working, father of 5.”
“He is the one that wanted more kids, she wanted to stop after her last baby but he “needed more boys”. I am seriously concerned not only for her, but her kids as well because now her oldest is seeing what’s happening and trying to help but my sister is prideful and refuses to let her child do anything.”
Her sister doesn’t want to leave, since she already has four children, and don’t want her children to grew in a complicated situation. “Me and this man have never gotten along. He’s been acting like this since their 8 year old was born. I’ve tried talking to her about leaving but she doesn’t want her kids to grow up in a broken home, and unfortunately her experience with our parents divorce was completely different than mine so she doesn’t understand that a divorce would benefit her kids here because she thinks they need their mom and dad together.”
Then she had explained that her sister threw a Thanksgiving dinner, so she stayed with her to help her, since she knew that her brother-in-law wasn’t going to. Then at the dinner, he made a ridiculous comment that made her mad. “Cut to this past weekend, her and her husband threw a pre thanksgiving pot luck where our entire family + his was there. I stayed with my sister a few days before because i knew he wouldn’t help. So we’re at dinner all talking and i mention we are trying for a babyand my BIL makes an off handed comment to him about how hard fatherhood is,”
She went mad, as she shared. She had leaked everything in front of his family. “and i snapped and said “like you would know” he looked taken aback and asked me what i meant and i unloaded on him, calling him a pathetic excuse for a man who makes my 8 months pregnant sister do everything for their family. i went off for a solid 10 minutes and he sat there shrinking in his seat. i left.”
Then her sister and her brother-in-law had called her in an order, one thanked, one complained. “and i snapped and said “like you would know” he looked taken aback and asked me what i meant and i unloaded on him, calling him a pathetic excuse for a man who makes my 8 months pregnant sister do everything for their family. i went off for a solid 10 minutes and he sat there shrinking in his seat. i left.”
Here are some comments from Redditors.
““His mom is angry at him and is moving in with them to help her out” Aaand it all becomes clear….! NTA”
“Mom should help Sister with the kids and neither of them should lift a finger to do anything for BIL. He cooks his own food, does his own laundry, and cleans his own messes. NTA”
“His mom is coming to help his wife. She can’t force her son to step up but she can make sure her grandchildren & their mother are taken care of. At this point if she sucked as a mom it’s too late & doing this is only beneficial to the rest of the household.”
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