HER MOTHER HAD STATED THAT IF SHE DOESN’T LET HER DISABLED SISTER TO WEAR WHITE IN HER WEDDING, THEN THEY WILL NOT BE ATTENDING TO HER WEDDING
She had stated that her mother had said to her that whether her disabled sister comes to the wedding with a white dress, or her mother and her sister will not attend to her wedding. She had asked for advice from the social media platform, Reddit.
“I (23F) am getting married to my Fiancé, (24M) in around two months. I asked all of my bridesmaids to wear light purple to my wedding. For more context I am the oldest of four, my two younger twin siblings are both 21, who we’ll call Amy and John. My youngest sister is 17 who we’ll call Abbie for this story.” she started to tell her story, as she explained the colors of the dresses her bridesmaids will wear, and her siblings.
“Abbie has a severe mental disability which has affected her and our whole family’s lives. I asked all of my bridesmaids to wear light purple to my wedding. Abbie however was hesitant and asked me, “Do I need to wear a dress?” Abbie never liked dresses so it hurt me to still tell her yes and that I would really appreciate it if she wore a dress.” She later on introduced her disabled sister.
“I also told her she didn’t need to wear a super poofy dress like the other girls, but that she could wear something more comfortable. I reached out to my mother afterwards asking her if she could take Abbie dress shopping because I was too busy with wedding preparations.” She had stated that she asked for her mother to help her sister to pick a dress, since she was overwhelmed with the wedding preparations.
“Later she sent me a photo with Abbie in a dress it wasn’t a purple dress like I asked her to pick, instead it was a WEDDING dress. I asked her what this was and my mother replied with, “the dress Abbie is going to wear to the wedding.”” She explained that her mother had picked a white wedding dress for her sister.
“I asked her if this was a joke and she said no.I asked her where she got the money because I only gave her $200 dollars, and she said she paid for it herself. I But told my mom I didn’t want anyone but me wearing white to the wedding and that we could pick the same dress for her out but in purple, but that it wasn’t okay that she thought that Abbie could wear white to my wedding.” She had explained the conversation she had with her mother over her sister’s dress.
“After this she got super upset with me and told me that I was being selfish and unreasonable and I asked Abbie to wear a dress and that this was the one she picked out.She said I was being an Asshole for not letting her wear something that makes her feel comfortable.” She had stated the talk between herself and her disabled sister.
“I told her that I knew she wouldn’t let Amy wear white to my wedding so I asked her why Abbie was any different. My mom said that because she’s disabled she should get certain rights that Amy or I wouldn’t have.I got angry at her and told her that Abbie shouldn’t be treated differently in these situations because of her disability and I wouldn’t let her wear white to my wedding, end of discussion.” She then continued and explained the conversation between herself and her mother.
“My mother after hearing this gave me an ultimatum, that I would either let Abbie wear the dress, or both of them (Abbie and my mother) would not be coming to the wedding.I was shocked that she would go this far because of a dress, so I told her I would think about it, but I still don’t want Abbie at my wedding in white.” She had concluded her story, and asked for advice from other redditors.
She received many comments that was supporting her as,
“Wow. That mom is an asshole. It’s never ok to wear white. They’re just still mad about having to wear a dress. OP needs to allow her to wear a lavender pantsuit. They’re out there trust me. I’ve been to retirement homes.”
“This is exactly it! When my sis was a bridesmaid for my wedding, I told her that I know she hates pink, but I would like her to wear a pink dress as my bridal shower each had a different summer color. She agreed. 3 already had dresses that they owned, which was the main reason sis got stuck with pink. For my bachelorette party, all my bridesmaids, (including sis) moh, mom and I got into the car to go look for dresses. She and mom wandered off on their own while I stuck with the other bridesmaids. Mom started sending me pic of sis in dark dresses and acted like I was a bridezilla for saying that black and navy blue aren’t summer colors. It was a shit day.”
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