HER GRANDMOTHER REFUSED TO VISIT HER GREAT-GRANDDAUGHTER WHEN SHE FOUND OUT THAT HER GRANDDAUGHTER HAD NAMED THE DAUGHTER WITH A NAME THAT SHE HATED
A woman had stated on Reddit that after her grandmother had learnt that her granddaughter named her great-granddaughter with a name that she doesn’t like, she changed her mind and didn’t visited their home to see her great-granddaughter.
The woman had shared how they were happy with her husband to welcome their firstborn two months ago, and on their family reunion, they had announced the name of their daughter, she had stated, “A fun tradition that my family does is to have a small get together once the baby is about 2-3 months old. We don’t announce the baby’s name until after the birth to make it a surprise. At the little party we give the parents a bunch of little gifts that have the new baby’s name on them. My grandmother always quilts a beautiful baby blanket and embroiders the baby’s name. She’s done this for all my sisters and cousins. The issue is the name my husband and I chose for our daughter”
Then she had told the story of her grandma’s thing with names, such as she even changer her own name. “For context, my grandma has a unique history with her own name. She was born as “Lucille” but from the time she was 8 she told every single person she met that her name was Barbara. She did this for years until even her family called her Barbara. She even got her name legally changed. When I was a child I always asked her why she changed it. She simply said she liked Barbara better. It became a family joke, but she never seemed upset about it and always laughed with us.”
Then she continued to explain their daughter’s name and the reason they had choose that name as, “My husband’s grandmother raised him from when he was a baby to when she passed away when he was 19. Her favorite celebrity was Lucille Ball. She and my husband used to watch “I love Lucy” all the time together. He misses her very much and said that he would love to honor her in some way. Her name was Mary but we chose to have that as our daughters middle name. We decided that Lucy is a name we both loved and would honor his grandmother and maybe make mine chuckle a bit.”
Her grandmother had hung up on her as she heard the name of her great-granddaughter, as she had stated, “After I gave birth me and my husband were FaceTiming my entire family when we announced the name. A few of my relatives laughed and said it was cute but my grandma was dead silent. When I asked her what was wrong she demanded to know why I chose Lucy. I was shocked and confused. I began to try and explain but she suddenly hung up. This greatly dampened the mood. My grandma wouldn’t answer any calls from me afterwards.”
Then she learnt from her older sister that her grandmother was incredibly upset with the name of her daughter. “I asked my oldest sister and she said that my grandma was apparently offended and thought we were mocking her. She said she’s not coming to the party in a few weeks to meet my daughter in person and that she’s not giving the baby quilt to us unless we apologize and change our daughters name. I don’t know why it’s escalated so much. My grandma has always been kind.”
She had concluded her story as, “I have no idea what to do. Births in my family are always celebrated and happy events but this has ruined it. I almost feel like some of my relatives are ignoring me because they don’t want to “pick sides” but I don’t even understand why there’s a fight. Dealing with this along with my newborn has been incredibly stressful. My family is puzzled as well but most of them are saying I shouldn’t have chosen a name I knew my grandmother disliked or at least asked her about it first.”
And then had asked for advice from other Redditors, and here are some of the advices she got;
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