A woman had shared the story she had lived, as he fiance had left her on the wedding day, and tried to contact her four years later.
She had stated that when she was 29 years old, she was going to marry with her fiance. And then she got left on the altar. “Basically four years ago, I (F 29) was supposed to be getting married to my fiance at the time, J. Everything was going perfect, I was in my dress, had my make up on and taken pictures with my bridesmaids. I was pretty much ready to walk down the aisle when J’s best man pulled me to side and said J was gone. He had gotten into a car and left and no one was able to get a hold of him.”
She had stated that her fiance was lost as if he was a ghost. And four years later, he wanted to talk with her. “I came home to our apartment and all his stuff was gone. He’s been pretty much a ghost ever since he left me and I had to force myself to move on. I ended up going on our honeymoon with my best friends (which was the best decision ever) and then put myself in therapy to heal the horrible trust issues I now have. I haven’t heard from him once until today.”
Then she learnt that he wanted to apologize, as their mutual friend had gave her number to him. She wanted advice from the Redditors. “I guess he got back in contact with an old mutual friend, who gave him my number. J texted me and said wants to meet up and apologize. He says he has a lot to explain to me about what happened that day. I’m torn. I swore J was a dead memory but my curiosity and desire to get closure with him is pestering me. My current boyfriend supports me whatever I decide and I feel out of respect to him and how wonderful he’s been, I should ghost J. I’m very confused. I never expected to hear from J again. I have no idea what to do. Please help.”
She had stated that, her ex-fiance had stated that he was bisexual, and had a boyfriend at that time. And he made him choose between him and the OP. “When our wedding approached, his boyfriend said he needed to choose and J chose him. So he packed his bags up and pretended everything was great until his boyfriend picked him up and they moved two towns over. I asked him if he was still with his boyfriend and he said no. He thought he could quit the drugs once he was free of his family and lying but he couldn’t. His boyfriend found out and left him. He kept going, getting high and hooking up with randoms. One of his regular hook ups ended up overdosing while they were asleep in the same bed and died and he realized he had to get sober.”
Then she concluded the story as, “He apologized for not just being honest with me and leading me on like he did. He wished he could go back and be truthful because I would of been the most accepting of him being gay out of everyone. He said he missed me when he left because even though he didn’t love me romantically, I was his best friend. It was a lot to take in. I told him while I’m glad he’s okay and is doing better, I’d prefer for us not to have any contact moving forward but I do forgive him. He said he understood and he was only in town for a few more days and he’d be gone for good again.”
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