AFTER THEIR FATHER ABANDONED THEM, THE MOTHER HAD WORKED ON “IMMORAL” JOBS, AND ONCE HER FIANCEE FOUND OUT THAT, SHE GOT SEPARATED AND ASKED FOR ADVICE FROM REDDIT

A woman from the social media platform, Reddit, had asked for advice about her situation with her fiancee, insulting her mother, as she had worked at different jobs, to took the care of her children, after the father of the post owner, had deserted them.
“I (26F) am not from USA so I might have some grammatical errors. So, my dad left my mom and I when I was only 5 years old. I also have a brother (21M). He left the country with his mistress and never tried to contact. We were really poor. My mom had to do some immoral stuff to get food on the table. She was a stripper and also sometimes pleased men to get money for us. She put me and my brother through school. I understood why my mom did what she did because we had no money and she wanted us to have a life better than ours. And I am not ashamed because of it. I also started working part time when I was 14. I was a good student so I got a scholarship to a good university. My mom eventually stopped stripping when my brother got a part time job too. She now only works as a waitress.” She had started her post, explaining that her mother, brother and herself had worked while they were small.
“I met my fiancé, Javi (27M) in college. This was my first serious relationship. We both loved each other. I never told Javi about my mom’s past because my mom made me promise to never say that to anyone. I kept that but it felt so wrong to keep this huge information away from my fiance. Javi knew about us. He only knew that my family was extremely poor. He doesn’t care about that. He is a very sweet guy who always takes care of me. He even covered some of the cost of my brother’s education as well even though I told him not to.” She continued, added that her fiancee had helped her brother financially.
“My mom also likes him, that’s why she told me not to tell Javi anything about her past or what she did for a living. So, a week ago, my mom and I went to Javi’s house to meet his parents. I didn’t realize his uncle and aunt would also be there. Upon seeing his uncle my mom’s face went white as if she saw a ghost. His uncle also kept staring my mom as if he knows her. My mom felt uncomfortable and said that she wants to go home. Javi was confused by it. But nonetheless we left earlier than we anticipated. The next day my fiance came to our place and shouted at me that I lied to him.” She continued.
“He said that I am a gold digger just like my mother, and my mother is the reason why his uncle’s first marriage broke. I asked him to explain what the hell is he talking about. He said that his uncle knew my mom because he was a regular customer of her and often hired her for her services. His wife caught them red handed and immediately filed for divorce. My mom was crying and said that she didn’t know he was married, she never asks men about their marital status.” She explained that he had insulted her and her mother.
“I told him that he has no right speak to my mom like that and his uncle was fully to blame because he was a married man who was hiring escorts for himself. My mom has no obligation towards his marriage. Javi still blamed me and mom and said that he felt deceived. He said to my face that he doesn’t want to date a “whore’s daughter” because I will probably invite men just like my mom. My mom had to beg him to not break the engagement.” She continued and explained the fight they had with her fiancee.
“I am tired. If I do end up marrying him, my mom would always have to suffer because of it. I don’t want that, so I gave him back his engagement ring and told him to never show his face. My mom is angry because she thinks this is my only chance to get married because no other guy would marry into a family where the mom works as a sex worker.” She had added.
“But I think I did the right thing because I am not ashamed of my mom, I didn’t even wanted to hide it in the first place. I wanted to tell him the truth but my mom refused it.” She concluede and wanted some advice, and added some other information regarding her situation.
“I need to clear things out a bit. Javi knows everything about my life. He knows my dad fled the country and we had to live in poverty because of it. He knows my mom got pregnant way too young. I did give him hints that my mom had to do shady things to get by (he probably thought my mom stole things). But I didn’t disclose that she was a sex worker. I wanted to tell him but my mom said not to because she doesn’t want this to escalate. Also I never asked Javi to pay for my brother’s education. He did it from the goodwill of his heart. I did promise to pay him back. I am not after his money. I do love him a lot. Even though we are broken up now, I still miss him. We have been together for 6 years. It is not easy to throw away those 6 years just like that.” She had gave the further information.
“Oh, so you are to be a whore brcause of your mum.
But… doesn’t that mean he is probably going to use escorts regulary? It runs in his family to be unfaithfull according to his logic!”
“You dodged a bullet getting rid of him. You will find the right person for you. Give your mom a hug and be happy you aren’t marrying into that awful family.” were some of the comments.
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