A WOMAN SHARED HER STORY OF HOW HER SISTER-IN-LAW HAD LEFT HER CHILDREN TO THEIR HOUSE AND ABANDONED THEM, SO WHEN HER HUSBAND WANTED TO TAKE CARE OF HIS NEPHEWS AND NIECE, SHE WANTED TO DIVORCE

On the social media platform, Redditi a 29-year-old woman had shared her story of how her sister-in-law had left her children at her house and never come back. And after her husband wanted to take care of his nephews and niece, she wanted to divorce, and asked for advices from other Redditors.

She had stated that she didn’t wanted any children in her life, and so she found a man that has the same thoughts. “I (F29) knew from a young age I don’t ever want to have or raise children. I met my husband in college and he was decidedly childfree too. We got married a couple of years back.”

Then explained that her sister-in-law had three children from three different man, and abandoned the children as she left them in her brothers house. “My husband’s younger sister (F24) has three kids (M5, M & F 2) with different dead beat guys. Two months ago she left all of them at our house, said she was going on a errand and never came back. Just left. We filed a report and everything. Last we heard she was safe but did not want to come back.”

“My husband’s mom is a minimum wage worker barely scrapping by. She used to be a single mom and do not want to raise these kids.” she had stated that her MIL too didn’t wanted to take care of the children of her daughter.

“I don’t want to raise them either. Don’t get me wrong, I feel bad for them. But raising kids is a huge responsibility I don’t want to take up. In the 2 months they were here, our expense has increased, we had to buy them clothes and stuff, and they are sleeping in our living room on air mattresses (we only have one bedroom). I had to work from home and look after them cause my husband could not get wfh and daycare for 3 is expensive. It has been really rough to say the least.” then she had stated the problems that arosed in their house with the three kids.

“CPS did get involved and asked us whether we want to keep the kids or not. I do not. I thought my husband would be on the same page but he wants to keep the kids. CPS has asked us to decide quickly and make necessary changes (get a bigger home for one).” she had stated that CPS had contacted with them.

“My husband and I have gone back and forth on this. I cannot live the next 16 years like this. Raising kids is hard. And expensive. But he wants to be there for his family. Which I get. So yesterday I told him I want a divorce. Quickly, before he made any commitments and dragged me into it with him. He called me a AH for divorcing over kids. For abandoning him when he needed me. I told him he knew my boundaries well in advance and this was a commitment (children) that he is unilaterally deciding on.” she had explained that she wanted to divorce, and the conversation between her husband and herself, and asked for advice.

Here are the some advices that Redditors had gave the woman.

“I can’t fault either of them. Only AH here is the sister.”

“Isn’t abandoning your kids a crime?? Also, depending on your income, there may be child care subsidies. Our church ran a daycare (daycare and after school care) and accepted the government certificate and did not charge the low-income parents the balance.”

“or all the reasons others have listed. But also because forcing someone into parenthood is also bad for those children. If you are ill equipped or unwilling, those children will be the ones that suffer for it. They deserve parents who want them whole heartedly, and nothing less.”

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