A WOMAN IS SEEKING ADVICE FROM OTHER REDDITORS, AS SHE SHARED HER STORY WITH HER BOYFRIEND, WHERE SHE REFUSED TO PAY FOR HER BOYFRIEND’S FOOD, WHICH RESULTED WITH THEIR GETTING BANNED FROM THE PLACE

She had stated that, after she refused to pay for her boyfriends food, on his birthday at his favorite restaurant, they got banned from the place.

“I (18f) have been dating my boyfriend, John (20m) for a little under a year. We have a pretty toxic free relationship but there’s quite a bit of tension when it comes to me being vegetarian. I’ve been vegetarian since 11 and I have very strict morals around it. The one thing John has a problem with is me refusing to spend my money on meat. Ever since I started making my own money, I swore to myself that I would never spend a cent of it on meat. On our dates, we usually spilt the bill and sometimes he pays for it all.” she had stated that she is a vegetarian, and refuses to pay for food that contains meat in it.

“I told him if he orders something meat-free, I’d happily pay for both of us but he never does. When he pays for my food, it’s when I’ve spend money on the activity. Normally concerts and festivals. That’s me paying €120+ on tickets and him spending maybe €50 on food.” she then added.

“His birthday was a few days ago and we went out for dinner at his favourite fancy restaurant. He got the most expensive steak they had along with a side salad and a bottle of wine. When we finished our food, I asked the waiter to spilt the bill and John looked at me shocked.” she said that she wanted to split the bill, which shocked her boyfriend.

“He asked if I was joking and I said no. Then he told me he thought I was going to pay since it was his birthday and he didn’t budget for the meal. I asked him why he thought I’d pay since I’ve been very clear about my rule but he couldn’t give me a reason other than it being his birthday.” she then explained that she offered to pay for everything but the meat.

“I told him I’d pay for the wine and the side salad, but he’d need to pay for the steak. He was furious with me and stormed off to the bathroom. I paid for my meal, the wine and the salad and waited for him to come back. He didn’t. After waiting for 20 minutes, I left.” she stated that her boyfriend had left her to pay the bill.

“I found him sitting on a bench near where we parked the car. I asked him why he left and reminded him he needed to pay. He looked shocked when I said that and asked me if I didn’t pay. I told him I’d paid for everything but the meat and he lost it. He started yelling at me, telling me I was selfish, that I needed to grow up. I stayed calm and told him he needed to go back and pay. He scoffed and walked away. I ended up driving home without him.” the woman had explained their conversation that turned into a fight over the bill.
“Now he’s saying it’s my fault that he can’t show his face in his favourite restaurant since he dined and ditched. It’s a pretty small restaurant so he’d 100% be recognised and kicked out.” she stated that her boyfriend is now saying that she made the wrong move, as she should have paid the full bill, and concluded her story, as she asked for advice from the other redditors.

The post had received many comments, here are the some of them;

“Ignoring the vegetarian stuff, who the fuck orders the most expensive steak possible and then expects their partner to pay for them without having checked prior. And then storming off to the bathroom expecting that to pressure you into paying for it. Op I hope you can see all the huge red flags here.”

“For refusing to pay for his steak. Y T A to yourself for staying with someone who acts like this and treats you so poorly.”

“He thought he had you trapped into paying for meat. Good for you for sticking up for yourself and your boundaries.”

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