A WOMAN HAD WENT TO A WEDDING ON A FOREIGN COUNTRY FOR THE FIRST TIME, AND PEOPLE STATED THAT SHE WORE THE WRONG DRESS THAT “OUTSHINED” THE BRIDE

A woman from Africa, that was working on Germany, was invited to a wedding by her colleague that was 60 years old. She had asked what to wear, and they stated, dress to impress. So she did, but things went wrong. She had shared her story on Reddit and asked for advice.

She had first introduce herself, and stated that she was working and living in Germany. “So I, 27F, am a black African woman. I’m living and working in Germany for a fixed period on secondment. While here, I became quite friendly with a colleague, 60F, and she invited me to her daughter’s wedding. I was excited as I’ve never been to a white wedding. I asked if there was a dress code/colour scheme to adhere to since it wasn’t specified on the invite. I was told the code is “dress to impress”. Bet.”
She had picked a traditional dress to impress others at the wedding, since that was the dress code. But things went wrong. “Day of the wedding, I understand the assignment. I wear my traditional wear, which is really beautiful and obviously not German. The garment is green, so np problem there. Or so I thought. I get a lot of questions and compliments at the wedding, which I genuinely downplay because its not my day.”

Then she stated that bride and some other people had acted coldly towards her as she shared, “My colleague seems colder than usual but I pay it no mind since she’s mother of bride and could be preoccupied. The bride is downright rude to me, but again i give her grace. I congratulate her and thank her for including me and I get a tight 😐 in response. I keep to the edges of the room as the music isn’t really my vibe, and I’m just observing how European weddings work. I leave around 8 (after 5 hours) and go home before the wedding finishes.”
When Monday came, and she went to work, she had faced with the terrible treatment, as she stated, “Monday I walked into whispers in the office, people actually strangely and more reserved than usual. An office friend pulls me aside and fills me in: brides mother is fuming. My outfit was too extravagant, OTT and inappropriate. I drew attention from the bride and commandeered the room: I was rude and disrespectful. She’s told people all about it, apparently.”

She had stated that she didn’t knew that would be a bad thing at an European wedding, and said that she asked for instructions for dress code. “I approach MOB and ask to speak but she says she has nothing to say to me. I ask her why she has sth tk say everyone else about me but not to me, and she calls me an insolent child. I explain to anyone who scolds me that this was my first white people wedding: I specifically asked what to do wear and followed the guidelines.”
She then give example from her own culture and wanted some advice. “Where I’m from, there’s no such thing as outshines g the bride – weddings are a fashion show and a chance to wear your best and brightest clothes. They told me this isn’t africa (which was racially coded) nd people here have manners. I laughed and told that person to go to hell, so she’s telling people I lack remorse for my behaviour.”

Here are some of the comments and advices of Redditors;
“The mother is at fault here. Not only for being a gossip and for giving you bad advice but also for inviting you to her daughter’s wedding. The couple should be inviting people.”
“OP, your dress was GORGEOUS — you followed the instructions! I would be honored to have you attend my wedding. Your friend the MOB is not your friend … so sorry! Hold your head up & let your beauty shine. NTA”
“We do not do that in Germany. It’s super weird, honestly. Were you the only one from work who was invited? That’d make it even weirder.”

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