A WOMAN HAD SHARED HER STORY OF HOW HER MIL HAD CALLED HER SON FAT AND WANTED PICTURES FROM FAR THAT SO HER GRANDSON WOULD LOOK SLIMMER

A mother had shared her story with her mother-in-law (MIL) how she called her son fat and wanted pictures from far that so her son would look slimmer.

“MIL 63F said to take pictures from far away of 14 week old son so he looks thinner. Called him fat, SO uninvited them to Thanksgiving but wait…” she started her story from the social media account Reddit.

“Background: MIL, 63, has a recurring problem with respecting boundaries and being appropriate. There is just too much to mention here so I will give 2 examples. Her other son and DIL don’t speak to her and uninvited her to their wedding after she kept insisting that a family member be invited. Because they already had a rocky relationship that was the last straw.” she had shared some information and added;

“Last time we visited home (far away by plain ride) during the holidays I had to spend the week visiting my family by myself without my then fiancé (now husband of 5 years) because she could not accept we would divide the time between families (which are on two separate regions of the island). We had to each go our way because she just wouldn’t stop arguing about it. I have never returned in holiday season again since because of this. When we got married we asked her to arrive a certain date as we were still getting ready and I was taking teacher licensure tests up until 2 days before the wedding. She did not understand, arrived early and I had to focus on their arrival instead of my test (I passed but I was stressed)” she had stated.

She then explained that her baby was born, and she wanter her own mom to stay with her, rather than her MIL. “Our baby was just born he is 14 weeks now. She was upset that she couldn’t stay here and that I wanted my mom instead. She is very vocal about other people’s bodies and has always been mean to me so I did not want her near me. I needed kindness to surround me. She told me I looked like a junkie a few weeks after I gave birth (c section lost a lot of blood was very anemic) and made comments about me no longer having a belly (from pregnancy) and what if I did? Who is keeping score and why is that your problem?”

“My husband told her to stop making comments about other people’s bodies and appeareance a few weeks ago and she was offended saying everything she says is ill taken. They were coming for thanksgiving to spend a week and meet their grandson and I’ve been dreading it because things are so tense.” she stated that she was nervous about her MIL coming for thanksgiving to spend time with them.

“Yesterday she was inquiring what we feed oir baby saying we should give him water and juice. We’ve told her before you have to wait until they are older for that. She finally got to the point saying he was fat. Our baby is big meaning he is also tall so he is actually doing great, thriving, doctors say every time he is perfect and have no concerns about his weight.” she had explained how her MIL had made mean comments about her grandson.

“She kept insisting in saying fat even though my husband kept telling her to stop to keep it to herself saying that our son is proportional to his weight and looks great and is healthy. She continued and then said to then take pictures of him from far away so he wouldn’t look so fat. My husband hung up the phone on her and later texted telling them not to come for thanksgiving (staying for a week).” she then said that her husband and his mother had a conversation where her husband uninvited them from the thanksgiving.

“When I learned what she said, I sobbed. Who speaks like this about a baby? What is there to hide by taking a photo from far away? He is a gorgeous baby, happy and healthy! Even if he was overweight that is not her problem or something to hide. What kind of sick mind would say something like this? Plot twist: she is overweight but no one brings this up because that is her body and her problem but I don’t get where these standards are coming from, he is an infant! I’m so enraged!” the woman had expressed her frustration about the issue.

“I’m sad for my husband, he doesn’t deserve this. Update: now he is changing his mind and saying she does want them to come to Thanksgiving. I don’t agree. She sent a text yesterday sending her blessings and love to her beautiful grandson but not apologizing or acknowledging. I find it manipulative. Help!” she had stated that her MIL had invited them for thanksgivind and she wanted some advice from the other Redditors.

Here are the comments of the Redditors, regarding the situation.

“When I was very young (6ish-10ish) my great grandmother used to tell me to “stop sticking out your stomach” to me anytime I was around her. For years I sucked in my stomach which caused horrible constipation issues.
She also use to tell my mom “quit telling her she’s beautiful she will grow up conceited”
I grew up in therapy because I had such horrible self image issues I would hit myself because I hated everything about myself.
OP, protect your baby at all costs. F*** their feelings.”

“F*** her she’s not coming around because she’s an asshole. Put your foot down. She’ll make those comments forever and ruin your baby’s self esteem. Those wounds don’t heal let me tell you from experience. Don’t send her another picture ever again.”
“Tell him if she comes to thanksgiving, you and baby won’t be there. Ask him why his mommy’s feefees are more important than his son’s health.”

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