A WOMAN HAD A FIGHT WITH THE FATHER OF HER DAUGHTER, AND HIS GIRLFRIEND, WHEN THEY WANTED TO NAME THEIR NEWBORN AS THE SAME NAME WITH HER DAUGHTER

A woman had shared her story on the subreddit, r/AITA, as she had stated that she had a one night stand with a friend, and then she got pregnant. Later on, when the father of her daughter, had another child with his girlfriend, they wanted to use the same name as her daughter, and that caused a lot problems.
He had gave back information as, “A little bit of context for you all, I ended up falling pregnant with my 10 year old daughter during a drunken hook-up with a friend in my mid 20s. Not the most glamourous or flattering truth but it’s the truth all the same. When we found out we decided to keep the child and co-parent while remaining friends. We were never a couple and we didn’t want to be one either.”
Then she continued that her friend had began his relationship four years ago, and the girlfriend of the father of her daughter had recently gave birth to their daughter. “Four years ago he began to date his longterm girlfriend and they moved in together last year. She fell pregnant and i’ve been supportive to them both as much as I could be without crossing any lines; i’ve encouraged my daughter to help out whenever she’s staying with them during the pregnancy and to behave, i’ve also made it clear that I want the children to have a close relationship despite having different Mothers, i’ve even said that if they were comfortable with it on nights I have my daughter if they ever want time alone i’ll babysit once they have the baby so my daughter can spend time with her sibling.”
Then she discovered the horrible truth, about the name of their daughter. “All in all, I thought everything was great and I was excited for my daughter to have a sibling as she’s always wanted one but I had no interest in having another child. Three days ago my friend and his girlfriend had a daughter, they asked me to bring my daughter to the hospital to meet her little sister yesterday alongside others of the family. So I did exactly that but when they introduced us to the baby I was shocked.”
She learnt that they used the same name as her own daughter, which she got shocked. “They’d named used my daughters name. She didn’t seem to have any issue with this when she introduced the baby bold as brass. My friend seemed uncomfortable and wouldn’t look at me directly. I asked them what they were playing at, at which point my friends father said he’d take my daughter down to the cafeteria to get something to eat and left with her.”
Then her friend had tried to calm her down, as she was mad with the news of the name of the newborn baby girl. “My friend told me to calm down and not overreact while his girlfriend told me she didn’t see the issue and it was a pretty name. I asked them if they’d named the baby for my daughter trying to understand the logic here but his girlfriend said that no it was just a pretty name she liked. I then asked if they planned to use a nickname or a middle name when addressing to her on a daily basis and her response was that she didn’t see a need for that.”
Then she tried to explain that how ridiculus their judgement is, saying that her daughter might get a new nickname. “I told them they were being ridiculous and that they couldn’t do this, I then told his girlfriend that I found this frankly creepy and told my friend he was being spineless if he was happy to go along with this. He tried to claim our daughter could use a nickname or something but I shut that down immediately asking why it was more reasonable for a girl who has used that name for a decade to shame her name compared to a baby who had no concept of what a name was yet.”
Then they had cursed towards eachother, and she wanted some advice. “His girlfriend told me I was being a b*tch talking to her like that after she just gave birth and asked the nurses to remove me saying I was being disruptive. Maybe my temper is running a little too hot though and I was too harsh on her when she just gave birth. It’s just so f*cking weird.”
Here are some of the advices and comments of the Redditors.
“NTA. From the outside it sure reads like she wants to replace her partner’s affection for his first daughter with his new baby. Of course it’s creepy.”
“When I was around 6yo, my mother told me that she no longer liked my nirth name and started calling me something else. It was very traumatic.”
“When I was 8 years old my dad left my mother for someone with my first name. My mom certainly did not encourage me to change my name, but when I found a nickname that I liked in a book she happily accepted my new name, and insisted that teachers use it. That’s the name I used to this day. I did not consciously change my name, I think I was just a typical 8-year-old wanting to try a new name, but I’m sure subconsciously that was part of my motive.”
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