A FATHER HAD ASKED FOR ADVICE FROM REDDIT, AS HE STATED THAT HE THREATENED HIS DAUGHTER TO NOT WALKING DOWN HER FROM THE AISLE

56-year-old father had stated that he had threatened his daughter to not walk her from the aisle on her wedding, if she doesn’t invite her siblings to the wedding, and asked for advice on the social media platform, Reddit.

“I (56m) have 5 children. This is about 3 of them Casey (26f), Alex (31nb) and Tom (34m). The names are not their true names.” He had started to explain.

“My daughter Casey is getting married this winter to her fiancé Max (27m)who she has been together with for about 4 years. I am covering the majority of the wedding expenses as Max’s family lives in a different country and with the currency exchange rate they won’t be able to afford the wedding and both to come to the wedding. I have no issues with it and just want my little girl to be happy.” He explained that he is paying for the wedding.

“Last week while Casey was away, my children Alex and Tom came to visit with their families and we were talking about wedding invitations. I was surprised to hear that they haven’t received their wedding invitations, so I just thought that Casey haven’t sent them out yet for everyone, until my oldest and youngest daughter’s pointed out they have received their invitations with their kids and partners invited.” He had learnt that his daughter didn’t invited her two other siblings to her wedding.

“I called my sister who also said Casey has invited their whole family to the wedding too and she received hers a while back, so I immediately saw red. Both Alex and Tom have husbands and have children (adopted) and it seemed Casey has excluded them because of their choices. It also seemed weird since Casey has always been close to them and supported them when they came out as non binary and gay respectively.” Later on the father had explained that she didn’t invited them because they were gay.

“I have called Casey and demanded an explanation. My daughter said that Max and his family don’t feel comfortable with couples that are not traditional and it goes against their culture and that she hopes for my understanding.” He had explained the conversation he had with her daughter.

“I have told her if that’s the case I will not be walking her down the isle and pull out from paying for her wedding, as she can not exclude her family like this when they did nothing wrong and if her future in laws opinion is so important to her, they can pay for the wedding.” He had stated his decision towards the opinions of his daughter’s in-laws.

“As a result Casey has called me an asshole and hanged up crying. My children are on my side, my wife is torn as she understands where Casey comes from but agrees she shouldn’t have excluded her siblings like this.” He had stated that his daughter had hanged up on him.

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“It wouldn’t just be the wedding. If the in-laws are this “uncomfortable,” then Alex and Tom would be excluded from every family event Casey hosts. Holidays, if she wants to host a holiday. All birthday parties, if she has kids. Any and all other events surrounding any kids they might have—sports, graduations, ballet recitals. If Casey gives into this demand, she is effectively cutting off her own brothers. It won’t be every event, as the in-laws live in another country, but it will be at least some of them.

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Why not invite everyone, inform everyone of who is coming, and let the “uncomfortable” ones stay home?

It goes against your culture to exclude family members from family events. Casey and her fiancé have to make some tough decisions here.”

“Casey can be bigoted on her own dime. I would never put my money into an event that discriminated against two of my kids like this. I also think it’s pretty scummy that she didn’t even have the guts to tell Alex and Tom they were being excluded.”

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