A BROTHER WANTS TO ADOPT HIS SISTER, AFTER THE PASSING OF HER FATHER, BUT HIS WIFE DOESN’T WANT HER

A man had shared his story on the Reddit. He had stated that his father was dead, and his little sister was left alone, so he wanted to adopt her. But his wife, with whom they had decided not to have children, she doesn’t want his sister.
He had stated that he has a sister who is 17 years younger than him. “I[28M] have been married to my wife [28f] for 2 years. we do not have kids and we do not plan to. I have a little sister [11f]. Due to the age gap , I am more like another father than a brother.”
After the OP had lost his father, his family had talked with his sister, and she wanted to stay with her brother. “My father passed away from pancreatic cancer. There are 2 options for my sister: either I take her in or my uncle [dad’s brother] . So we asked her who she wanted and she chose me.”
The problem is that his wife doesn’t want any children, and while his uncle was on the table, she doesn’t want her husband to be responsible for a child. “Here is the problem, my wife and I decided that we did not want kids, So she does not want to adopt my sister especially since my uncle can. But my sister has no parents now and I want to make sure she is able to recover and be healthy and since she wants to be with me, I will not force her to be with our uncle.”
He had stated that, she can either help him with his sister, or they can go their own ways. “This is causing a lot of tension with my wife , things escalated and finally told her I am doing this whether she agrees or not, she can either accept it or we get divorced. We have not talked since then. What I can do in such situation?”
After a while, they had talked again, and they had decided to separate their ways, as she was shocked that he chose his sister over her. “I talked with my wife again. She still refused as she does not want kids. So we basically decided to go our separate ways. She said you really are choosing your sister over me. I told her I do not want to go into this discussion again but if that what you want to hear then fine.”
The man had concluded his story as, “Yes my sister takes the priority now, I am choosing her over you. This was our last conversation. I have been living with my sister for 1 week now. Being a single father-ish brother is definitely challenging but I am really enjoying it.”
Here are some of the comments of the Redditors.
“An important takeaway from this mess: If you have a child/children you must have a will and you should absolutely make arrangements about who takes guardianship of your child/children in the event of your death after having serious conversations with these people. It may seem morbid but it is so so important.”
“My sister is 11 and I’m 23. I could never imagine doing something like this to her. I’m so incredibly sorry your sister did that to you. I hope you are doing better now though and have NC with her”
“Jesus I’m so sorry 😞 that’s horrible to hear and I can’t imagine leaving my sibling with no parent no love and nothing!!!! I hope you are okay and sending you some internet love.”
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