A FATHER HAD STATED THAT HIS DAUGHTER IS KEEPING HER MENTAL ILLNESS AS A SECRET FROM HER BOYFRIEND WHO SHE IS GOING TO MARRY

A father had asked from Redditors about the issue that his daughter has a mentall ilness, and her boyfriend, whom she is going to marry soon doesn’t know about that. He had stated that he wants his daughter to tell her boyfriend her condition.

He had explained that his 25-year-old daughter is a diagnosed sociopath, as he shared, “I’m the dad of a 25 year old young woman who I love very much. I’ve been able to have a good relationship with my daughter and I enjoy my time with her, but there’s one thing about her that would give many people pause – she is a diagnosed sociopath.”

Then the father had talked about his daughter’s actions that led them to seek help, when she was just a child. He had stated that, “She exhibited odd, disturbing behavior at a young age, and after a serious incident of abuse towards her younger sister, I realized she needed professional help. Throughout her elementary years she struggled heavily, getting in lots of trouble in school for lying, cruelty and all other types of misbehaviors. With an enormous amount of therapy & support, her bad behavior was minimized as she grew older. She received an ASPD diagnosis at 18, and I had suspected it for long prior.”

As he stated, she had no problems after she had received help from the professionals, and she gets lots of attention, since she grow out to be a beautiful woman. “After her aggressive behavior was tamed, her following years were much more fruitful. She’s law-abiding; has a decent job and a good education; and has many good friendships and admirers. Especially male admirers; she is very, very charming and adept at attracting guys and maintaining their interest.”

Then he stated that his daughter has a boyfriend, which her boyfriend loves his daughter so much, and added that he likes him too, as he wrote, “She uses that old dating guide “The Rules” like a Bible. She currently has a boyfriend of about a year and a half who’s crazy about her, and who I have a very strong relationship with (we live in the same area and spend time together regularly). He is a great guy, very kind, funny and intelligent.”

Then he had explained a conversation with her daughter, that he had. He had stated that his daughter has no feelings, as he stated, “But I doubt she loves him. We’ve had some very honest, in-depth discussions about her mental health since her diagnosis, and she’s been open with me that she doesn’t feel love or empathy towards anyone, even family. When she acted very sad and broken up over the death of one of her closest friends at the funeral, she confessed to me privately that it was all a put-on, and that she felt “pretty neutral” about the whole thing.”

Continued on the subject as, “She has also stated she has never once felt guilty about anything she’s ever done, and doesn’t know what guilt feels like. While she enjoys being around her boyfriend and is sexually attracted to him, I highly doubt she feels much of anything towards him love-wise.”

He then added that her boyfriend doesn’t know anything about that, and she has no plans to tell the truth. As he continued, “Her boyfriend (who might propose soon) has no idea about her diagnosis, and she’s been very upfront with me that she has no plans to ever tell him, thinking it’ll scare him away.”

Then the father had stated that she should before he proposes, or that he will. “I’ve made it clear to her that she needs to tell him the truth before they marry; that he has the right to know and consider it; or I will; to which she always responds, “I know you wouldn’t dare.” I actually would – I really like and respect this young man, and would feel awful keeping this “secret” from him, and letting him walk into a marriage without this piece of knowledge.”

Then he stated that he doesn’t want to hurt his daughter’s possible future, but he doesn’t want her boyfriend to be hurt too, then asked for advice, as he stated, “I’m not trying to sabotage my daughter’s future. Maybe her boyfriend’s love of her personality and other aspects is enough that it won’t end the relationship. It’s his decision to make; but he deserves all the facts. Someday he’s bound to find out she’s a bit “off”; it can’t be kept a secret forever.”

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