A HUSBAND WANTS HIS WIFE TO BE THE MOTHER OF HIS CHILDREN FROM HIS AFFAIR
A man had asked his wife to be the mother of his children from his affair with another woman, who she had passed away. The woman had shared her story and wanted advice from the people on Reddit.
She had stated how and where she met with her husband and the lenght of their marriage, as, “I (29F) and my husband (44M) have been together for five years and married for two. I met him at the church I started going to when I moved cities to start my career. I work for an insurance company and he’s a pastor. I know that we have a notable age gap, but he was always kind to me and made me feel special.”
Then she explained how her husband had revealed his affair and the twins that came from there, as, “Anyhow- a week ago he came home and told me we needed to talk. He told me through tears that he had been having an affair with one of our community members (34F) and that she had been pregnant with twins. She had gone into labor; she and one of the twins died and the other is in the NICU. He said we need to step up and that he wants me to turn my office into a nursery and set up a cot in the room so we can take turns.”
The they had a fight while discussing the situation, and her husband had slapped the woman, as she shared, “I became distressed and told him I wanted some time to think. That I was not sure I wanted to do this. He told me that I had made a vow to him in marriage and that God had blessed us with a child. That this is our cross to bear and that God will never give us something we cannot handle. I told him that it seemed God had given her more than she could handle because she had died (I know I should not have but I was not thinking correctly). He slapped me and told me that I needed to serve my husband. That God had chosen me as this child’s mother and I needed to be his humble servant.”
She had said that she is feeling terrible as she doesn’t want that child, as she said, “I just feel so strange. Yesterday I cried so hard I threw up. This woman died, yet I feel bad for myself. I feel so ugly. I wanted children and was saving for IVF because I am infertile, but now that I have a chance to have a child and I do not want it. I feel like I’d be robbing its mothers grave. I pray to God but if I’m being honest it’s never felt like anyone was ever listening.”
“I feel like I have truly seen my husband and he no longer looks kind- he looks his age and very tired. I want to abandon him and the child. I’m only 29- I can start over. I have a remote job, I can take a day off when he goes to the NICU- pack my essentials and leave. Neither him nor the child deserve this, and although this is my circus- that is not my monkey.” she had concluded her post and wanted some advice from the people.
Here are the advices the other Redditors had gave to the troubled woman.
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“Leave leave leave. You cannot trust this man. You have absolutely no obligation to become his mistresses’ child’s mom. This isn’t sister wives. This is all a very unfortunate and sad situation but you are a hurt party here.”
“God didnt tell him to knock up a woman outside of his marriage. This whole thing was of your husband’s own making. He is trying to coerce you by abusing yalls’ religion for his own selfish wants. No no no. Isn’t it in the Bible that if your eyes tempt you to sin that you should gouge your eyes out? Well, I’m assuming his eyes are pretty much intact aren’t they? And the cherry on top is he felt so self righteous in that moment to slap you after everything he’s done. No.”
“The only thing that is not a huge red flag in all of this is you realizing that is not your monkey. He chose to be unfaithful, and from that he expects you to ultimately raise another woman’s child?! No way. If this is all true, there is only one thing you should do – run.”
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