HUSBAND WANTED HIS WIFE TO PAY, WHEN THEY WERE OUT WITH THEIR FAMILY, SHE HAD REFUSED
A woman had shared on Reddit that she refused to pay, when her husband wanted her to pay for the dinner, they were celebrating something related to his work life. That caused a nasty end to their night, that they were celebrating.
She had stated that, with her husband, they weren’t sharing their finances. “To begin, My husband and I don’t share finances, it’s been like this for the 3 years of our marriage and so far we’ve been doing well, though he’d sometimes try to get me to pay for him but I do it only when I want to do a nice thing for him, say invite him to a restaurant.”
Then he got a bonus from his work, and invited his whole family to a fancy restaurant. And in the end, he wanted his wife to pay the bill. “This past week, he got a bonus at work, he was overjoyed he informed his entire family and planned for them to go out and celebrate with us. He picked the restaurant, meals, drinks etc, I naturally thought he was going to pay for all that since, it’s his happy celebration.”
She had refused, and asked for an explanation. “But it turns out I was wrong because when it was time to pay the bill, he told me to “take care of it” I said why? It’s his celebration not mine but he insisted I pay and he’ll explain later. I refused and demanded an explanation, he said that while yes he is the one who got bonus, but he assumed I’d want to celebrate that and offer to cover the bill. when I talked about how ridiculous it was of him to assume I’d pay for not just his, but his family’s meals he said that I should be happy for him instead of being visibly bitter.”
Then the family started to talk mean to her, which led to her to pay her own food, and leave back to her home. “He then said he’s yet to receive his bonus and begged that I take care of the bill now and he “might” consider paying me back later. I refused and only paid for what I consumed. Him and his family started talking about how inappropriate I was acting, I took my purse and went home afterwards cause there was so much commotion when they started arguing who’s going to cover the bill.”
Then they had an argument at their house. “His mom spam called me for hours, and he went off on me at home saying I spoiled his celebration and joy because I’m feeling bitter, especially considering I had enough money to cover the bill right there and then. I said this wasn’t my obligation and he was the one who came up with the celebration idea.”
Then her husband had stated that if she was the one received a bonus, he would have paid the night gladly. “He argued that if the roles were reversed and I got a bonus, he’d celebrate me and my achievements and pay for the “damn” meals after taking me and my family out. I casually said “well, that’s just you not me”. He got even more pissed and said that he had had it with my juvenile antics and that he won’t ever forget the scene I made at the restaurant infront of his family. Been upset with me for days now.”
Here are some of the comments the Redditors made regarding the story.
“Whose idea was the dinner? “he informed his entire family and planned with them to go out and celebrate with us.”
Oh, he did. “he told me to “take care of it””
Told you…not asked. 🚩 “he assumed”
You know what they say about assuming. “I said this wasn’t my obligation and he was the one who came up with the celebration”
Correct. He planned it, he invited people, he pays. “said that he had had it with my juvenile antics”
The only one being juvenile is him. “he won’t ever forget the scene I made” Oh geez. 🚩🚩
Do not ever blend your finances, it sounds like he feels entitled you your money.
There are more red flags, him siccing mommy on you is one.”
“He also claims if the roles were reversed he would pay for a celebratory meal of hers, but I’m willing to bet he wouldn’t. And tbh is getting a bonus really worth a huge celebration? A promotion perhaps, but a bonus?”
“Totally agree. He’d expect her to pay with her bonus money. He’s an AH for not discussing the plan with her at all. Those doing the inviting usually pay the bill unless it was just casual where everyone knew that they would pay their own meal.”
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