HER PARENTS STOPPET TALKING TO HER, THEN FIVE YEARS LATER THEY TRIED TO CONTACT

A woman had stated on Reddit, that her family had stoppet talking to her, after she had married. After five years, they tried to contact to her, as she couldn’t understand why. She had shared her story, and asked for advice.
The woman had explained that she had started a relationship with her former boss. “My husband (30m) used to be my boss. About 9 years ago I started working as his assistant. We spent about 2.5 years ignoring our mutual attraction until we gave in. We then went to HR, who reassigned me, and the whole thing was strictly above board from the time we began dating. I got pregnant about a year later, and my husband and I decided to just get married.”

She had stated that she left the work, because she was having problems with her new boss, as she didn’t expect any problems with her family. “While we’d only really been dating for about 1.5 years, we knew each other completely, loved each other, lived together, and there was a baby on the way. We knew how it would look, but I had to leave the company anyway due to problems with my new boss, so we didn’t anticipate this causing any issues, except with my parents.”
Then she had talked with her parents, about the situation of how she is in love with her boss, and he is. “They (62m/57f) have always been overprotective, so I knew they wouldn’t like me dating my boss, and hadn’t told them, but I had to tell them if I wanted them at my wedding. We decided to be mostly honest with them, about how it was strictly professional until it wasn’t, how the second it got unprofessional we went to HR, how he had never taken advantage of me, but now we wanted to get married and we wanted them there.”
She decided not to tell her pregnancy to her parents. “We did not mention the baby, because I felt that giving them that information in addition to the rest all at once would just break them. I was only about 4 months along when the wedding happened, so the bump was easily hidden by a flowy dress.”
Then her parents left her wedding, “The wedding itself went off without a hitch, and apart from my mother pulling me into the bathroom shortly before the ceremony to ask if I was sure about this, which I said I was, my parents seemed to take it well. The ceremony and reception were at 2 different venues, and we had to travel from one to the other, and my parents never arrived at the reception. I called them and got ignored, and then my brother called them and they told him that they were going home.”

As they stated to her brother, they were uncomfortable with the situation. “I don’t remember the exact reason they gave but it amounted to them being tired and uncomfortable. I tried contacting them after the wedding, but found that I was blocked on everything except email, which I used to send them a long letter essentially saying that I’m an adult who made an adult choice and I hope they can respect that.”
She had no interaction with her parents for five years after her wedding. Then on their fifth anniversary, she had shared her two children and announced that she was expecting the third. After that post, her parents tried to contact her. “5 years later, I have not heard from my parents since my wedding. My husband and I are not big on social media in general but I recently posted something for our 5th anniversary in which I mentioned our 2 kids and third on the way. Within a month of making this post, my parents left a voicemail saying they saw the post, and, having had no idea that they had grandchildren previously, now want to meet them. I haven’t responded and there have been a few follow ups since then asking why I haven’t.”
She had stated that she doesn’t know what to do. “I don’t know what to do, but my gut instinct is that 5 years is too long, and it’s about the kids, not about them respecting my choices or relationship. However, I can’t help but feel that I’m being unfair, and my brother agrees, because I told them in my email that if they could learn to respect my choice and my marriage eventually, then we could talk, and now I’m retroactively applying a time limit.”

Then she learnt that her parents stayed away because of the skin color of her husband. “My dad snapped that he wasn’t going to take this from a “cushi”, a slur meaning dark skinned. My mother immediately tried to run damage control but I ended the call. They have since messaged me several times trying to explain that calling my husband a racial slur wasn’t indicative of a racist attitude, and he wouldn’t have said that in front of the kids, so they should still get to meet them.”
She had concluded as, “I’ve spent 5 years wondering how they were so offended by me marrying my boss that it earned no contact for half a decade. Turns out they’re just racist. It’s almost nice to find out. If it was just the boss thing I would have sympathy for them and we might even be able to reconcile, but with this, it’s now just a question of if I’m going to knowingly expose my mixed race children to a couple of racists, which I am obviously not going to do.”
Here are some of the comments of Redditors.
“Bet the parents only want to see if the kids are white passing or not before they get involved. If they have such a problem with the husband being darker complexion, they’re definitely gonna be negative towards the kids who may also be darker complexion.”

“They saw pictures of the kids on social media so they evidently passed the grandparents’ racist color meter. At least at their current age, god forbid they ever get a tan. I’ve seen that exact story somewhere on Reddit, of a kid with a white grandma who started being passive-aggressive racist when the kid tanned one summer then had a full meltdown that she’d never wanted non-white grandbabies. The heartbreak of that poor kid, who thought their grandmother genuinely loved them. I’m glad OOP and her husband spared their own children that.”
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