FATHER REFUSED TO PAY FOR THE WEDDING OF HIS DAUGHTER, AFTER HE SAW HER WEDDING DRESS

A father had went for the payments of his daughter’s wedding, as they went one adress from another, they had end up in the tailor, she was there for the final fitting. After the father saw his daughter in her wedding dress, he refused to pay for the wedding.
The father had shated his story on Reddit’s r/AITA subreddit, with the username of u/TRADressDistress.
The father had explained that it is a family tradition to prepared the wedding dress with the mother, for the females of the family. “My wife made her wedding dress with her mother. Its very sentimental to her and she was very proud of it. It was simple but freaking gorgeous. She has always said she would love for our kids to wear her dress at their wedding. We have 3 daughters (34, 30, 25) and 1 son (28). My wife made it known that the dress was not to be altered except to be taken in/let out so it could be kept and reworn. Our youngest daughter didn’t wear it. Our DIL wore it for their reception and our son held it up against him for some pre-wedding bridal pictures so he wasn’t left out…he totally rocked it. Oldest daughter wore it for her wedding.”

Then stated that they had helped their children about the subjects that their choosings. “We’ve offered some financial contributions to all our children towards either school, a wedding, or a house downpayment. Olivia has asked for help paying for her wedding.”
Then with his daughter, they moved to pay to the vendors. “The wedding is in the beginning of August. A few months ago Olivia asked my wife if she could use the dress for her wedding and my wife gave her the dress so Olivia could get it fitted with plenty of time. Tuesday Olivia asked me to go with her to pay some vendors, one of the stops was the tailor shop for a final fitting and pay the seamstress. Olivia was really nervous and I figured it was just usual pre-wedding jitters and excitement.”
As she step out with the dress, the father saw that they had destroyed it, and embodied it with Olivia’s new dress. He was furious. “The dress Olivia came out in was not at all her mother’s dress. It was a completely different dress with parts of her mother’s gown added to it. She took the straps, the sash, the train, and the embroidered top skirt and had it added to this new dress. I was befuddled for a bit and then asked what the hell this was.”
Then Olivia had explained her own reason to her father. “Olivia’s reasoning was that she was the last of our kids to get married and there wasn’t anyone else to wear it and she made sure to instruct they keep the original dress to be returned to her. I told her that’s not the same, she knows it, and the dress was never hers to do with what she wanted. I asked the seamstress for the rest of my wife’s dress and had Olivia tell my wife in person what she had done.”

As he talked with his wife, he had stopped his payments for the wedding, “My wife was devastated. I have since canceled the payments I made that day and told her I won’t be paying another cent to her wedding. She and her fiance can figure it out. Our youngest daughter thinks I’ve gone overboard knowing Olivia planned her wedding with our help in mind and without it, she can’t finish paying for everything.”
He concluded the story as, “. Olivia’s future in-laws also agree with that- they can’t afford to help and suggested I should pay, and then we just go low contact with Olivia. I’ve told them both that Olivia took something irreplaceable from her mother for her own vanity. I know we originally offered help with the wedding but I think Olivia’s actions warrant canceling that offer.”
Here are some of the comments from Redditors.
“NTA, That was hugely disrespectful to your wife. The dress didn’t even belong to your daughter! If they can’t afford the big wedding without your help then they can downsize the wedding.”

“She made the decision without speaking to her mother because she knew what her mother’s answer would be. She was banking, quite literally, on being able to get away with it. So incredibly mean, for her to do that to her mother!”
“What’s that saying? ‘It’s easier to ask for forgiveness than to ask for permission’. I hate it! She knew she wouldn’t get permission so she just did it.”
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